Are Republicans going soft on gay marriage? Not if Chris Christie has anything to say about it

Many right-of-center ideologues consider New Jersey Governor Chris Christie a Republican in name only. Not only does his cordial relationship with President Obama make their heads spin but he hasn’t turned out to be the hard-line conservative they thought he would be.

Count me among those who actually have a favorable opinion of Christie, who in all likelihood will mount a formidable campaign for the presidency when he runs in 2016. Also count me among those who believe certain factions within the GOP are becoming more comfortable voicing their disagreement with Republican social policies.

Chris Christie

The party’s ever so subtle lurch to the left, as evidenced by the growing number of young people and elected officials who, incorrectly mind you, argue that gay marriage is a conservative position, is bad news not only for Americans in general but for Catholics specifically. Indeed, over the past several years a growing number of Republican strategists have expressed how comfortable they are capitulating to progressives on the marriage issue.

Perhaps this is occurring because they take social conservatives and their votes for granted. Maybe it’s because they buy into the pernicious notion of “marriage equality”. Or maybe it’s because they are afraid of the media backlash, like Mitt Romney ostensibly was when, instead of defending what Chick-fil-A owner Dan Cathy said about marriage during the 2012 election, he avoided the issue altogether by sheepishly telling  reporters that “those are not things that are part of my campaign.”

What a joke.

Having said all that, I was overjoyed to hear that Governor Christie, who has already vetoed a law that would’ve redefined marriage, is continuing his fight to preserve the institution of marriage in the Garden State. Although Judge Mary Jacobson of the Mercer County Superior Court overturned his veto by recently ruling that gay couples will be allowed to partake in the institution of marriage starting October 21st, Christie’s administration was quick to appealed her decision to the New Jersey Supreme Court.

Gay marriage debateFor his efforts, Christie, who paradoxically supports civil unions and recently signed into law a ban on ‘gay conversion’ therapy, has been called every name in the book. And boy are some folks upset. Other than the usual vitriol from sites like the Huffington Post, in an apparent attempt to trip him up during his most recent gubernatorial debate, Christie was asked what he would do if one of his children told him they were gay.

The governor, a Catholic, appropriately responded by saying he would “grab them and hug them and tell them I love them,” but that he would also inform them that “dad believes that marriage is between one man and one woman.”

I’m curious as to why this question always gets brought up. I mean, how do you think people who are taught to love their neighbor as themselves are going to respond? I’m also not convinced this question makes Republicans appear un-sympathetic. If anything, it gives them a chance to explain why children deserve a mom and a dad, how natural law principles can play a role in our political discussions and just how disastrous liberal social policies have been for the family unit over the past fifty years.

Moreover, how come a Democrat who supports redefining marriage is never asked what they would do if their son told them he wanted to become a Catholic priest or if he believed homosexual acts were intrinsically disordered? Would they support and love him or would they stop him from becoming a priest?

I can’t speak for those who foolishly believe someone’s sexual orientation is in and of itself a sin, but I think I speak for most well-catechized Catholics when I say that if God blesses me with fatherhood and that he wills that I become the dad of someone who is gay, I would treat them no differently than how I already treat persons struggling with temptation or addiction. For, as 1 Corinthians 6: 9-11 states, alcoholics, fornicators, idolaters, thiefs, drunks, slanderers, robbers and active homosexuals will not enter the Kingdom of God. Thus, I, like Christie, would be sure to let my child know that I that I love them and that I am going to do everything in my power to make sure they spend eternity in heaven.

“So you’re going to tell someone who is gay that they can’t marry the person they love?” some will inevitably retort. Well, yes. The reason being that I want what is best for people’s souls. You see, the world we live in sees no evil, hears no evil and speaks no evil. It is a place that does not believe in sin. Everything is rationalized. It is a world that, by virtue of its support for same sex unions, disallows children from ever being given the chance to obey the 4th commandment: “Honor thy father and mother,” Instead, it forces on them the belief that they should “Be somewhat nice to Parent A and Parent B.” It cares only about comfort, pleasure and expanding liberty at all costs. Catholics, however, know that we all have crosses to bear, and that allowing someone to continue on in their destructive ways is the direct opposite of love.

It would be foolish for conservatives, especially young Republicans, to view Governor Christie’s decision to defend the institution of marriage as anything other than a noble act, one that is worthy of praise and emulation wherever the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God are under attack.


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  • whitelillyiiar

    Chris Christie is amongst the same clan as the Obamas and Clintons… SURE glad I live no where NEAR, his state… speaks VOLUMES as to how under-informed voters “react!!!” They’ll REAP what the REAPER SOWS…. he’s as liberal and Fran-Nanny Pelosi!!


    Bloomberg reports this morning that Gov. Christie has withdrawn the appeal of the decision. Watch this developing story.

    • Russell Lewis

      He did in the face of a unanimous decision of the court. I’m surprised, I’ve yet to hear the cries of outrage about all those “activist” justices on the court overturning “real marriage.” I’m sure if I wait long enough, and in 3, 2, 1… begin.

  • Joe Pendleton

    Passage says the effeminate shall not go to heaven……… Gary Bauer?


      Alan Alda? Do we all have to be John Wayne?


    For many years I took the c same position as Gov. Christie, that is, favoring civil unions as a way to solve the real human problems facing gay families. The bishops and the Catholic right rejected that and once marriage became a major political issue painted themselves into a corner where they had to be oppositional to the LGBT community at every turn. This led to fear mongering and hysteria that got so bad that baptized Catholic children were denied their right to a Catholic education. Pope Francis is on target when he tells us to “give it a rest” on the gay issue. The gay marriage issue will stabilize with the blue states adopting it by ballot, legislation or judicial action and the red states rejecting it.

    In this new situation, I would hope the American Church would reach out follow the o Pope’s lead and put some effort into pastoral outreach to LGBT Catholics and non-Catholics as well.

  • John

    I appreciate Governor Christie’s position on marriage. I truly do, but I will not support him for President no matter what. Though it may have been sincere, his treatment of Mr. Obama as a hero after Hurricane Sandy was totally unreasonable, and his support for the bill denying children access to reparative therapy was a downright betrayal, again, sincere or not. I will not be voting for Mr. Christie in the primary, or even the general election, if it comes to that.

    • joey

      John, why fix something that isn’t broken?

  • joey

    Treating openly gay children as people struggling with a temptation or addiction is disgusting. Who are you to say that an LGBT person is not happy the way they are? You treat them like they’re some sort of demon; a problem that needs to be fixed or dealt with.

    You seem to focus solely on the marriage issue. Where is the show of support for kids who do come out? There is no word from the bishops, and Cardinal Dolan didn’t even mention the anti-gay attacks that occurred this summer in NYC!

    • Paul

      Joey: Not a demon, just a sinner, like all of us! Homosexuals just have a particular cross to bear, and need to be loved and helped to bear it. They are called to chastity like everyone, and The Lord is with them in their suffering.

      • joey

        Paul, I myself am gay. Crosses don’t exist. Being gay doesn’t mean I’m suffering anything. It’s just a part of me, like anything else. It’s not something that needs to be tamed, controlled, or bent because an institution is telling me that I should.

        What suffering is there, unless you mean the pressure of staying closeted?

        Please also respond to the so-called leadership, because no one seems to be able to answer that one.



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