Kathryn Lopez has a good piece on Catholic University’s decision to return to same-sex dorms.
My alma mater, Thomas Aquinas College, has single-sex dorms. I thought it was a bit retro and outdated when I first started at the college. After all, I grew up with three brothers and our house was always full of their friends. What was the big deal?
Then, I visited a high school friend studying at UC Berkeley. She was in a co-ed dorm that also had co-ed bathrooms. As I brushed my teeth early in the morning in said bathrooms, it suddenly hit me: “These are not my brothers and these are not their friends.”
After that, I was fine with single-sex dorms.
Truth be told, I think both the male and female students enjoyed having a space that was their own, a space that couldn’t be invaded by the opposite sex.
At one point, my alma mater made international headlines upon expelling a student who had been cohabiting with a significant other off campus, a blatant violation of the school’s ethics policy. Ironically, a good portion of the correspondence directed to the College was complimentary, much of it from people wanting to know more about the College and how they could apply.
Who knows. Maybe CUA’s return to single-sex dorms will make the University more appealing to prospective students.
It’s not that these students aren’t interested in sex, romance, relationships, the opposite sex, etc. I think it’s that they don’t want to feel as if they’re suffocating from these things. And for those who take their parent’s investment and/or their own investment seriously, there’s the reality that going to college might have to do with something more than hooking up.
After all, if hooking up is all one’s after, there are cheaper ways to go about it.