Bidding Farewell To Co-Ed Dorms

Kathryn Lopez has a good piece on Catholic University’s decision to return to same-sex dorms.

My alma mater, Thomas Aquinas College, has single-sex dorms. I thought it was a bit retro and outdated when I first started at the college. After all, I grew up with three brothers and our house was always full of their friends. What was the big deal?

Then, I visited a high school friend studying at UC Berkeley. She was in a co-ed dorm that also had co-ed bathrooms. As I brushed my teeth early in the morning in said bathrooms, it suddenly hit me: “These are not my brothers and these are not their friends.”

After that, I was fine with single-sex dorms.

Truth be told, I think both the male and female students enjoyed having a space that was their own, a space that couldn’t be invaded by the opposite sex.

At one point, my alma mater made international headlines upon expelling a student who had been cohabiting with a significant other off campus, a blatant violation of the school’s ethics policy. Ironically, a good portion of the correspondence directed to the College was complimentary, much of it from people wanting to know more about the College and how they could apply.

Who knows. Maybe CUA’s return to single-sex dorms will make the University more appealing to prospective students.

It’s not that these students aren’t interested in sex, romance, relationships, the opposite sex, etc. I think it’s that they don’t want to feel as if they’re suffocating from these things. And for those who take their parent’s investment and/or their own investment seriously, there’s the reality that going to college might have to do with something more than hooking up.

After all, if hooking up is all one’s after, there are cheaper ways to go about it.

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4 thoughts on “Bidding Farewell To Co-Ed Dorms

  1. richard says:

    They are wise to separate the students.

  2. Itstheorientation says:

    “It’s not that these students aren’t interested in sex, romance, relationships, the opposite sex, etc. I think it’s that they don’t want to feel as if they’re suffocating from these things … After all, if hooking up is all one’s after, there are cheaper ways to go about it.”

    You think: #1 interest is “sex”; #4 is “OPPOSITE sex”. College should meet students’ interest in these things w/out “suffocating” … i.e. college should not discourage ?)or should actually provide venues for hooking up as long as that’s not ALL a student is after (?)

    This is a very curious post for a “Catholic” publication. The wages of sin is death. Fornication is sin. But on the other hand a love of Jesus and God seem to be wholly missing as well. Where is the student’s interest in leading a Godly life, imitating Mary, being a handmaiden of the Lord etc.? It seems main ambition is to be as worldly as possible (sexually and career wise), while being shielded from all the negative aspects of men regarding you as a sex object (in the morning brushing your teeth). Probably why most people I’ve met have such a dim view of the morality of Catholic girls.

    1. Pia de Solenni says:

      I think you’re confusing or conflating what I said. Sex per se is not a sin. Many (most?) students are interested in sex, romance, etc. A good university, in my opinion, would give them the formation or guidance to pursue these things in the best possible way. This means NOT encouraging a hook up culture. It also means providing an environment in which students can pursue healthy relationships, one where dating has something to do with marriage and sex is not part of dating.

      As for dim views of Catholic girls, remember a lot of that has been hyped by media and what’s real has usually been eagerly supported by Catholic men. If you’re going to point fingers, don’t stop with Catholic girls.

  3. Francis says:

    Co-ed BATHROOMS?? Ugh.

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