Catholics Speak Out About Their Homosexuality

If you haven’t yet, check out “The Third Way” video from Blackstone Films. It is worth spending each of the 38 minutes it takes to watch it.

The Third Way from Blackstone Films on Vimeo.

I just showed it to my class at Benedictine College, and it does several things very well:

First, it helps Catholics stop thinking of same-sex attracted people as somehow not really what they say they are.

It seems that for one part of the culture, the Church’s teaching (CCC 2357) that  homosexual sexual acts are “intrinsically disordered” and “contrary to the natural law” is unthinkable. For another the church’s teaching a few sentences later is unthinkable:

“The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.”

The film does a good job of showing that both are absolutely true.

Second, the video also helps clarify that homosexuals are not alone in their struggle with chastity. The debates about homosexual marriage make it seem as if it is unjust for the Church to teach that some sexual acts are immoral, because it dooms homosexual people to a life without sex. Well, by the morality of the Bible and the Church and most other religions, single people are just as doomed. They also have sexual feelings that they cannot act on.

The video helps get that point across, too.

But mostly, it inspires compassion and understanding for a group of people who have a very hard time finding either: homosexual Catholics who want to be chaste. Secular homosexuals think they should just “get over” their Catholicism. Catholics often think they should just “get over” their gayness.

Watch the video and learn that they cannot easily do either.


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  • Joe

    I was not aware that heterosexuals were “doomed” to a life without sex.

  • Anonymous

    What we need to understand is that there are numerous interpretations of the Bible, and not everyone believes this is the sole book to follow. Let’s discuss this issue without mentioning any aspect of religion or God and see if a point can be proven.

  • Mojoe

    It is always tough to accept what the church teaches on this subject. I think we need to understand the difference between what the church REALLY teaches and what we deduce from what the church teaches. The church doesn’t and never has condemned same sex attraction. There is a difference between same sex attraction and acting on that attraction (homosexuality). Also please know there can be a difference between reality and TRUTH. The TRUTH is that you are definitely created as a specific male or female…the reality is that you may be end having same sex attraction. When we talk of being created in the image of God, we talk of humanity and then the individual species that can only create humanity in coming together as one. There can be no creation of humanity by 2 guys or 2 girls…it is impossible. It then goes against God’s 1st command ‘go forth & multiply”. The problem of homosexuality being ‘disordered’ lies in several things: our lack of understanding the image in which God created us (as male and female); and the purpose of sex/marriage; that sex is not the be all and end all; the media preaching that sex is the be all and end all aand get it no matter what; and if you have same sex attraction go out there a get sexing. We need to understand that Christ would not have called some men to be Eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom if sex was THE thing. Saying that homosexual interactions are disorder sounds bad; but it speaks of a languiage going against natural law, which is informed by Divine law. The problem today is that we have media and lobbyists promoting the idea the sex is THE thing, and if you happen to have same sex attraction; why shoulf you not have sex and get married or that fact that society and sometimes church members act harshly against same sex attraction as opposed to single heterosexuals who have sex before marriage. This becomes a matter of unfairness rather than a moral TRUTH. The truth of the matter is that God did not create us in confusion; to imply such would be to imply that God Himself is so devious as to sow confusion in humanity. How can that be? It would mean He ceases to be who He claims to be. We are created specifically as male and female…in the spiritual realm…what happens thereafter is a consequence of a myriad of things: be it sin (parents); wars; bad diets; nurture etc….but it definitely is not who you were created to be. Please for the last time learn the differences between the terms i’ve mentioned…and lastly the difference between being born and being created. To say you were created homosexual would imply the same thing as for someone born with cancer…if God is love and He is good; why would he create you with cancer so you can suffer? Last words: understand what original sin is and also the role our and other people’s (free)will have on each and every one of us.

  • Anonymous

    I was born Catholic, attended Catholic schools for 13 years, and grew up in a family of zero open gay people. I am in a positive, long-term relationship with someone of the same sex. The sugarcoat of “acceptance” that some Catholics place on this issue appauls me. I agree that everyone possesses qualities and performs actions that are disorderd. I will speak for every confident gay person in a healthy, long-term relationship. Our sexual actions are not disordered. The term “homosexual attraction” is another way to avoid accepting who we really are. Just say “men who like men” or “women that like women”. If you’re going to pray for gay people in any way, please pray that they develop a long-term, healthy relationship with someone of the same sex (which DOES occur in the world each day) if they do not want to remain single. For those single and happy, pray that they find supportive gay AND straight AND bisexual AND transgender friends. It takes just one indirectly-bigoted comment for a gay person to walk away. They don’t have time for that sugarcoat. Just be happy about their happiness.

    • Nikhil

      Whether homosexual or not, those who live according to the desires of flesh will not inherit the kingdom of heaven.

      • Anonymous

        For some, “the kingdom of heaven” is a very abstract phrase to understand. Some people do not believe in it. The basis for goodness of homosexual and heterosexual people is much broader than just their desires for flesh.

  • morganB

    It never ceases to amaze that God created homosexuals and “single” people to live out an asexual existence . He makes it even harder by providing varying libidos. Notice that I put the word “single” in quotes. We are taught that to be sacramentally married you must be married by priest. Therefore, you are considered single.

  • Debbie

    Hear hear !! Bravo and well said ….I am a single celibate and I totally get where you are coming from.



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