Catholics Speak Out About Their Homosexuality


If you haven’t yet, check out “The Third Way” video from Blackstone Films. It is worth spending each of the 38 minutes it takes to watch it.

The Third Way from Blackstone Films on Vimeo.

I just showed it to my class at Benedictine College, and it does several things very well:

First, it helps Catholics stop thinking of same-sex attracted people as somehow not really what they say they are.

It seems that for one part of the culture, the Church’s teaching (CCC 2357) that  homosexual sexual acts are “intrinsically disordered” and “contrary to the natural law” is unthinkable. For another the church’s teaching a few sentences later is unthinkable:

“The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.”

The film does a good job of showing that both are absolutely true.

Second, the video also helps clarify that homosexuals are not alone in their struggle with chastity. The debates about homosexual marriage make it seem as if it is unjust for the Church to teach that some sexual acts are immoral, because it dooms homosexual people to a life without sex. Well, by the morality of the Bible and the Church and most other religions, single people are just as doomed. They also have sexual feelings that they cannot act on.

The video helps get that point across, too.

But mostly, it inspires compassion and understanding for a group of people who have a very hard time finding either: homosexual Catholics who want to be chaste. Secular homosexuals think they should just “get over” their Catholicism. Catholics often think they should just “get over” their gayness.

Watch the video and learn that they cannot easily do either.

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Tom Hoopes, author of What Pope Francis Really Said, is writer in residence at Benedictine College, in Atchison, Kansas, where he teaches in the Journalism and Mass Communications Department and edits The Gregorian, a Catholic identity speech digest. He was previously editor of the National Catholic Register for 10 years and with his wife, April, of Faith & Family magazine for five. A frequent contributor to Catholic publications, he began his career as a reporter in the Washington, D.C., area and as press secretary for U.S. House Ways & Means Chairman Bill Archer. He lives in Atchison with his wife and those of his nine children still at home. The views and opinions expressed on this blog do not necessarily reflect those of Benedictine College or the Gregorian Institute.

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  1. My personal litmus test is to substitute “alcoholism” for “homosexualty” to see if reasoning on the subject holds up. Both SSA and alcoholism are intrinsically disordered and personally, physically and spiritually dangerous. Sometimes alcoholics will describes themselves as such when discussing the addiction and related treatment programs, so it’s appropriate that people with SSA might sometimes call themselves “homosexuals.” They differ, however, in that alcoholics rarely discuss their disorder in general, mainstream situations not related to the treatment of disorders. People who consider themselves “homosexuals,” however, routinely insist that they be recognized as “homosexual,” as if homosexuality were something to be proud of. Would someone try to be proud of being alcoholic? What the Church has never (yet) explained is why people with SSA should be thought of as “homosexuals” 24/7, as if this were the prime factor of their identity. We don’t condemn alcoholilcs to being known as such in all situations, all of the time, so why are we supposed to accept the idea of SSA as a factor of identity? This langauge (perhaps a translation problem, but certainly a political one) in the Catechism encourages people with SSA to see themselves as incurable and the commission of homosexual acts impossible to avoid. Neither are true.

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