Don Jon & the Destructive Nature of Porn

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Note: Viewers beware – this film is sexually graphic and filled with clips of pornography.

Actor Joseph Gordon-Levitt has captivated Hollywood and the public with his approach to the subject matter of the new film he wrote and directed, Don Jon.

Don Jon follows the life of a young man named Jon, who has a great life but struggles with a dark secret – an addiction to porn. So many people in the world today struggle with pornography and their addiction to it can affect their relationships and their lives. This film takes a surprisingly honest look into addictions, specifically porn.

The film begins with the lead character Jon, played by Gordon-Levitt, highlighting the things that he cares most about.

“There’s only a few things I really care about in life…

My body. My pad. My ride. My family. My church. My boys. My girls. My porn.”

Throughout the film, Jon seems like a normal guy, living a normal life; but is plagued by his addiction to porn. Jon has it all: a good family, good friends, a faith life, and every girl loves him. Then one night, Jon meets Barbara.

Barbara, played by Scarlett Johansson, is “the most beautiful girl” Jon has ever seen (his words, not mine). He falls head over heels for her, but she plays hard to get. But Jon pursues her and eventually wins her heart.

Jon and Barbara’s relationship begins to blossom, and they love everything that they know about one another – including each other’s crazy families. But, there is one lingering issue – Jon’s porn habit.

Jon keeps his porn usage hidden, but one night, Barbara walks in on him getting his daily porn fix. Naturally, she freaks out and says, “How can you watch that?” His reply? “Everybody watches it.”

This is a poignant part of the movie where Barbara laments how she thought he was different and better than all of the other guys she knew. And Jon rationalizes it by saying everybody’s doing it, so it must be ok.

After a bit of back and forth, Jon vows to quit watching porn. But, he doesn’t. As the movie unfolds, the viewer sees that Jon is enslaved by his porn addiction and the consequences of his addiction are dire.

Barbara breaks up with him. His family life suffers. He can’t hold a job, other than a bar-tending position he’s had for years. He can’t even finish a college course, because he is unable to sit through one class without being compelled to watch porn on his phone. And when he’s not watching porn, he’s thinking about it.

This is the sad reality of porn addiction.

A recent study in the U.K., looked at pornography addiction and the effects that the use of porn has on the brain. The results of the study were shocking. One of the most interesting discoveries: Porn affects the same part of the brain that other addictions take root in. And worse- if porn is introduced at an early age (pre-teen or teen years), it negatively impacts the child’s life for years to come.

One example from the study was a handsome, articulate 19-year-old young man, who works full-time as an apprentice electrician, but his life is dominated by a porn addiction. The 19 year-old said:

‘Every bit of spare time I have is spent watching porn. It is extreme. I can’t hold down a relationship for longer than three weeks. I want porn sex with real girls, but sex with them just isn’t as good as the porn.’

Porn addiction (and sex addiction) is becoming an epidemic problem in the world today. There’s even new research showing porn to be just as addictive- if not more so- as cocaine or heroin.

The good news is- people are beginning to recognize the problem, and are working to bring awareness to the issue and find ways to reconcile it. More people are talking about the effects of porn and the addiction to it, and even Hollywood has started to take notice.

There are many redeeming things about the film Don Jon, but the best thing it does is give an honest portrayal of  porn addiction at work in someone’s life today and how it can negatively impact your life and relationships.

The movie ends on a positive note, because Jon finds a cure to his addiction. He realizes that he needs to “lose himself in another person” and finds a woman he truly loves and who truly loves him, so he has no void for porn to fill.

True love conquers all things.

Porn affects the way that people think, the way they love, and the way they live their lives. We need to take a stand against porn and work to promote true love within our culture.

To find out more about truth about porn, visit: http://pornharms.com

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13 thoughts on “Don Jon & the Destructive Nature of Porn

  1. William Meyer says:

    OK, before succumbing to the vapors over improprieties in the film, take a breath. Recognize a few realities: a) this film, like so much casual porn, is a product of Hollywood – don’t expect miracles; b) the film isn’t needed by truly faithful Catholics, who are not porn addicts in the first place.

    It is remarkable that such a film could even be produced in Hollywood. And shocking that (according to imdb.com) it has actually turned a modest profit.

    Someone whose life is dominated by an addiction to porn will not be harmed by watching this, and may actually benefit.

    1. Francis says:

      William, even faithful Catholics are human beings and as such are subject to original sin. No one is immune to addictions whether they are to substances or behaviors. After reading the movie review linked on the USCCB website, I am kind of surprised that anyone of the Catholic faith would praise this movie. It sounds as though the film has a very shoddy depiction of the Catholic church and – in particular – the sacraments. That aspect of the movie is not even mentioned on Catholic Vote, which really surprises me.

  2. Joyce A Williams says:

    I hope you are not suggesting this film for anyone to go to see? It would totally be CONDEMNED if the Catholic Church, didn’t do away with the LEGION OF DECENCY.
    Even the ending , is not the answer to his addiction, because,
    putting all our “HOPE” in another person, place or thing, when we lose that person, place. Or thing…..will DOOM us to go back to our SINS!.
    Without GOD and His Catholic Church we continue the cycle of finding new, people, places or things, to fill, what we think will fill our BROKENESS!

  3. Tony says:

    I have been on a crusade to stop porn solicitation on craigslist. I often go thru the job postings for porn actors and flag them.

  4. LauraZim says:

    There is help available for those who struggle with addiction to pornography and other unwanted sexual behaviors. Please look for the website called Reclaim Sexual Health. It can help you save marriages and families…and quite possibly even lives.

  5. Ann Wallaker says:

    CHILD PORN IS THE WORST. HAD TO HATE THE CRIME BUT LEARN TO FORGIVE THE PERSON, NEEDED THE HELP FROM THE HOLY SPIRIT AND BLESSED MOTHER.THE PERSON HAS PAST AND I PRAY FOR THE SOUL

  6. Sean Argir says:

    People can be addicted to porn just as anything else can be addicting. But some addictions can kill you unlike porn addiction. Drugs and alcohol are among those killing addictions.

    There is nothing wrong with porn when someone is not addicted to it.

    1. Patrick says:

      Sean I tend to agree in theory except that in reality the porn industry is bad for those in it. You dont hear many stories about bright young women out of medical school doing a few porn films, paying off their student loans and then opening a thriving OBGYN practice. More likely, its creepy old white men getting rich off of poor, uneducated yet beautiful young men and women who see quick cash and few other options and who too easily descend into a life of drugs and partying and living beyond their means. When they age, or lose their looks, the old white men just find new talent.

    2. Quanah says:

      Sean, porn addiction is not just an addiction to porn. It is more properly speaking an addiction to lust. A porn addiction quite often leads to other behaviors which can result in death and the deaths of others. Furthermore, many marriages and families have been broken because of addiction to pornography. I have known people who had years upon years of sobriety from drugs and alcohol, but could never truly achieve that same sobriety from porn.

      To readers who compulsively look at porn there are 12 steps groups in which you can find help and support. God bless you in your struggle and journey.

    3. Francis says:

      Sean – porn is dehumanizing and degrading, objectifying both the viewer and the viewed. It is the opposite of love – it is using another human being as an object. Therefore, there is everything wrong with porn, regardless of whether or not a person becomes addicted to it.

    4. Ann Roth says:

      “There is nothing wrong with porn when someone is not addicted to it.” WHAT!? Yes, there is. Addicted or not watching it is sinful as is the production of it.

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