Obama’s Orwellian Marriage Moment

Today, in his Second Inaugural Address, President Obama said: “Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law – for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well.”

When he says that, I hear: “I want to change the law such that society no longer specially recognizes and helps potential parents.”

That’s exactly what I hear. It seems like the two sides of this debate are speaking different languages.

We live in a strange Orwellian moment when to say “parenting relationships deserve special status” is denounced as bigotry and to say, “I deny that parenting relationships are unique” is hailed as brave and bold.

When we say, “I’m against gay marriage.”

They hear: “I hate gay people. Their love isn’t real. Their relationships don’t matter.”

When they say, “Gay people have the right to marry the same sex.”

We hear: “There is nothing unique about a procreative relationship. Relationships that bear and rear children deserve no special status.”

When we say, “Heterosexual relations are natural to human beings. They are ordered toward procreation. This is a biological fact.”

They hear: “Gay people, in their deepest identity, are subhuman to me.”

When they say, “Love makes a family.”

We hear: “The facts of our biology are entirely arbitrary. We can wish them away. Your job is to honor our pretense.”

When we say, “The only reason the state recognizes marriage in the first place is to encourage and reward parenthood.”

They hear: “I am an anti-gay bigot.”

When they say, “LGBT marriage equality is the new civil rights movement!”

We hear: “In a nation that rejects the right to life for an entire class of people, the unborn, and kills 3,700 babies a day, applying the term ‘marriage’ to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transsexual relationships is the real issue!”

History will look at our times in the harsh light of truth, with all the Orwellian nuances  stripped away. All the name-calling will be shown up for the silliness it always was. And when that happens we will be proud to have stood on the side of marriage.



  • SearchCz

    I think its ridiculous to suggest that allowing a same-sex couple to marry diminishes, in any way, the status or support offered to “potential parents”. Write an article about that, Mr. Hoopes, and send me a link please.

    Furthermore, it is ridiculous to suggest that the status and support of marriage recognition is only important, and should only be afforded, to those who might procreate on their own, unassisted. There are MANY ways that adults become responsible for raising children, and ALL OF THOSE CHILDREN deserve all of the support that might come with social or legal recognition for the folks who are raising them.

    And, finally . . .

    There is a special status afforded to the relationships that bear children. It is called parenthood, and it NOT the same status as marriage. Stop trying to conflate the two.

  • Greg B.

    He is suggesting that the rights, benefits, privileges, and responsibilities of civil marriage are adequate for supporting children and their parents… until the moment those things are extended to same-sex couples then suddenly, magically, they not only become inadequate but they constitute a lack of “help” given by society to potential parents. This line of reasoning is completely illogical. Your privileges are less special if someone else gets them? These are the arguments the anti-gay lobby is hanging their hopes on. These are the arguments that will likely cause their defeat at SCOTUS.

  • Greg B.

    “When he says that, I hear: “I want to change the law such that society no longer specially recognizes and helps potential parents.”

    How absurd. You’ve officially lost the argument.

  • Joe M

    A gay marriage is the product of choice. Relationships are not born.

    Furthermore, our laws are full of special status benefits. Minorities receive advantages when being considered for acceptance to college. Native Americans are allowed to build casinos and receive federal entitlements that nobody else gets. Farmers get subsidies that nobody else receives.

    Special Status’ are not a problem. They are the norm.

    • http://www.facebook.com/chuckt1981 Charles Thomas

      Children aren’t a product of choice?

      • Patrick

        And isn’t a straight marriage also the product of choice? This guy Joe M is the least critical thinker on the web.



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