Open Secret: Gay “Marriage” Means No More Marriage

Supporters of homosexual “marriage” in New York love Dave Holmes’ tweet. It gets mentioned in story after story on the subject. The pop music maven was celebrating June 24, the fateful day when the New York State Legislators and Governor Andrew Cuomo embraced same-sex “marriage.”

Twittered Holmes: “As we celebrate tonight, let’s spare a warm thought for our opponents, who lost absolutely nothing.”

Not so, Mr. Holmes, not so. Your opponents lost everything. In a revealing article last year, the New York Times admitted this open secret: Once marriage is redefined, it quickly becomes undefined. Let me explain how this happens.

A married couple is a boyfriend and girlfriend who have told the state about their love … but they are also so much more.

Marriage improves men, prevents poverty in women, commits both parents to the next generation and otherwise improves society. To call marriage the basic building block of society isn’t poetry: It is literally true.

But for marriage to do those things, it has always had to discriminate.

Marriage laws discriminate a great deal: by age (you can be too young to marry), by marital status, by closeness of relation and by intention (roommates, brothers and sisters who share a home, and nursing-home residents who share an address aren’t marriages.)

That’s why society has always rejected claims from polygamists and kissing cousins who wanted to marry each other. They wanted to say: “Marriage is an institution that enshrines my love.” The courts have always answered: “No, marriage is an institution that commits men to a family, produces children, and raises them in a stable, sound environment.”

But now, the legislature and governor in New York have redefined marriage … to mean “Marriage is an institution that enshrines human love.” And in New York, every married couple — legally — is now just a boyfriend and girlfriend who told the state about their love.

Revealingly, the very celebrities who push for homosexual marriage don’t believe in marriage to start with.

Marisa Tomei, actress and anti-proposition 8 activist in California, told USA Today in 2009: “I’m not that big a fan of marriage as an institution and I don’t know why women need to have children to be seen as complete human beings.”

Rashida Jones, who attacked proposition 8 supporters on YouTube, recently said, “Especially this country, we have kind of failed with marriage. We’re so protective of this really sacred but failed institution. There’s got to be a new model.”

Zooey Deschanel, who pushes homosexual “marriage” at concerts, says we have moved beyond marriage: “We’re a generation that has progressed in many ways, from the ones before us. I think that the idea of romantic love is about marriage is over. Now all love is romantic love. Getting married is not a necessity, and staying with one person is not a necessity.”

That’s exactly what spawned gay “marriage”: The philosophy that marriage doesn’t mean anything anyway.

Maybe Dave Holmes disagrees. Maybe he thinks he truly appreciates marriage. If so, then Oscar Wilde — the homosexual who died a devout Catholic — was right. Each man kills the thing he loves.

Tom Hoopes is writer in residence at Benedictine College in Atchison, Kan., where he teaches in the Journalism and Mass Communications department and edits the college’s Catholic identity speech digest, The Gregorian.



  • Jen

    The only thing that will protect women from poverty is education.

  • Gwen

    The problem is that people misunderstand what love is. They act like love is what animals feel when they mate with each other. But that is far from love. Love involves commitment. With the divorce culture that notion of commitment went out the window. And regardless of what they say homosexuals are not committed, just check the statistics.

  • nicole

    The institution of marriage was defiled long before homosexuals started to “get their way” in society, with states one by one allowing them to receive the benefits not only on monetary and security levels, but just simply because they loved each other. I’m a catholic myself, but I’m also bisexual, and my religion isn’t going to keep me from loving someone who’s is the same sex as me. God has given us the power to love and be loved and to me, that’s the most important thing. I’m not interested in marriage, I never was, even before I realized that I was attracted to women. But I will support anyone’s decision, whether it be man and woman, man and man, or woman and woman, in choosing to devote themselves to one another in this way. It’s clear that marriage isn’t for everyone and that’s all right. But take a step back, realize that this isn’t hurting anyone to let two people who are so devoted and loving of each other and who happen to be of the same-sex, have this opportunity. You need to get off your high horse and realize this is 2011, times are a-changing, people, and they’re changing for the better.



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