“Same Love” Ain’t About Love


Maybe you’ve heard it on the radio. Or maybe you saw Ellen Degeneres laud the singers of “Same Love” as her “heroes” for being the first hip-hop musicians to speak out in favor of gay marriage. Or maybe you’re new to the game and only heard about the song “Same Love” after Macklemore and Ryan Lewis performed the hit on Sunday Night’s MTV Video Music Awards.

“Same Love” was originally released back in February, but only made it to number 89 on the top 100 charts back then, but the song rose in popularity after the SCOTUS decisions on gay marriage back in June.

I heard “Same Love” month’s ago when it was first released and was captivated by the smooth vocals of the female singer in the chorus. She sings,

“I can’t change,

even if I try…

even if I wanted to.

My love, my love, my love…

She keeps me warm.”

I know what you’re thinking. How could I hear a female singing those lyrics and not think something was up? Well, I guess I thought it was one of those songs that was written for a man, but sounded better with a woman’s voice? Or maybe the girl accidentally put a “sh” in front of “he”?

Nevertheless, I caught the ear worm from this song and couldn’t get it out of my head. I had to listen to it every time it came on the radio and sang along.

Then one day, shortly after I had been standing up for traditional marriage on the steps of the U.S. Supreme Court in June, I was singing along to the song and it hit me. “Wait, is this… What?!? I’ve been singing along to an anthem for gay marriage?”

*The awkward moment when you realize the song you’ve been singing along to is an anthem to gay marriage.*

First of all, I guess I should stop being a hypocrite and stop singing along to a song supporting something that I’ve been standing up against. But, the major issue that I have with the song is not that it’s an anthem for gay marriage, in fact that has very little to do with it.

While there are many issues that I have with the song, and you will too if you take a few minutes to listen to the lyrics, the main issue that I have with the song is it is completely hypocritical and it attacks our faith and the same freedom that the song claims to support. Let me explain.

Since this is a Catholic blog site, let’s start with Catholicism. One of the most upsetting parts of the song, the video, and Macklemore’s MTV VMA’s appearance this week, occurs during this part of the song:

“When I was at church they taught me something else.

If you preach hate at the service those words aren’t anointed.

That holy water that you soak in has been poisoned.”

The video follows a gay man, and when it get’s to the words “preach hate”, it shows the man’s mother making the sign of the cross. Then, at the VMA’s Macklemore makes the sign of the cross as he sings into the words “preach hate”. Why is it necessary to bring the “Catholic” sign of the cross into this at all? And even more importantly, why must it be attached to the words “preach hate”? I have been Catholic my whole life and I have never heard any words of hate against homosexuals or people who believe in gay marriage from the Church or anyone who represents the Church.

Macklemore goes on and claims that traditional marriage supporters “paraphrase a book written thirty-five-hundred years ago”. When in reality, Macklemore is the one who is paraphrasing the Bible and trying to break it down in ways to support his message. Catholics believe in the unity of scripture, so we actually don’t have an issue with paraphrasing the Bible. Maybe Macklemore should spend some time at a Catholic Church, he might like it.

Catholics are all about love thy neighbor and unity of Scripture.

Macklemore is quick to play the blame game and claim that the Church and traditional marriage supporters are the hateful ones. When in fact, traditional marriage supporters are under the most (and worst) attacks in the world today. The song goes,

“If I was gay, I would think hip-hop hates me.

Have you read the YouTube comments lately?

“Man, that’s gay” gets dropped on the daily.

We become so numb to what we’re saying.”

Obviously Macklemore has never been on Twitter and watched the attacks against marriage advocates.

The vitriolic attacks against traditional marriage advocates are a million times worse than the attacks against gay marriage advocates. I get attacked constantly simply because my friends and I are outspoken marriage advocates in the public eye.

And maybe Macklemore should see the hate mail (or worse) that groups like the National Organization for Marriage receive on a daily basis. And what attacks like the gunman who sought to kill members of the Family Research Council, simply because they were vocal supporters of traditional marriage.

The song continues with references to bullying, more attacks on religion, and even more claims that traditional marriage supporters are hateful. Macklemore also asserts that the same-sex marriage movement is the present day civil rights movement. The song continues,

“Gender to skin color, the complexion of your pigment.

The same fight that led people to walk outs and sit ins.

It’s human rights for everybody, there is no difference!”

In the video, this part of the song is played during footage of Martin Luther King and the civil rights protests. Comparing the same-sex marriage movement to the civil rights movement is appalling. There are so many issues with this, but I’ll just leave you in disgust on that point.

“Same Love” attacks traditional marriage supporters and calls us “haters” while hating on us. The song attacks the Church and conservatives for standing up for our beliefs, and claims we’re oppressors while striving to oppress us.

The truth is, the Catholic Church and traditional marriage supporters everywhere are all about love. There is no hate in the Church or in the marriage movement towards anyone who disagrees with us. We’re just standing up for what we believe in and striving to do it in the most loving of ways.

Now, I’m just hoping that Eminem steps in to do the heterosexual version of “Same Love”, and it can be our anthem for the traditional marriage movement.


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  • http://www.catholicvote.org/same-love-aint-about-love/ Mike

    LOL So this is about anti-gay marriage but you put a picture of Neil Patrick Harris who is outright open about being gay AND married WITH children.

  • http://xamples.tumblr.com briar

    ALSO WE ARE BORN IN GODS IMAGE. being gay is scientifically proven to be in your genes (several genes contribute). God made everyone the way he wanted. Being gay is not a sin. Being yourself is not a sin. Being born with the genetic make up that makes you attracted to the same sex is not a sin. The catholic church needs to acknowledge scientific truth. Do we realise the youth are being pushed away from the church because we no longer believe in what the church stands for which is partly discrimination against anyone who does something we dont like.

    • DeShane

      No Briar, there is no gay gene. Perhaps you missed out when the gay gene failed to pass must in the 90’s.

  • http://xamples.tumblr.com briar

    413 words on why this song is one of the best things to come out of pop culture. BTW THE SONG IS NOT EVEN ABOUT GAY MARRIAGE ITS ABOUT GAYS BEING TREATED EQUALLY. DID YOU EVEN BOTHER TO ANALYSE THE LYRICS OMG.
    One of the many issues Macklemore addresses in the song is the contradictory teachings of the Catholic Church. His argument is one used often but was told with such intelligent words and though-out sentences that made it easy for me to agree with what he was saying and actually managed to open my eyes and see the holes in the churches debate. In the songs first verse the lyrics “And you can be cured with some treatment and religion / Man-made rewiring of a predisposition” are spoken. This refers to some Catholics believing homosexuality is a disease or demon. There are priests who perform rituals to ‘banish the demons’ so the gay man or woman will be ‘cured’ of their sexuality and will go on living heterosexual lives. This is not true. Being gay is not a disease or a demon it is simply genetic just like hair colour or body shape, but unlike these two examples you cannot change you sexuality with colouring or surgery. Your sexuality is part of who you are, it is wired into your brain and no amount of prayers, treatments or rituals will change that. Another point in Macklemore’s rap states that the churches actions are not true their words. In verse one Ryan Lewis wrote “And God loves all his children, is somehow forgotten / but we paraphrase a book written thirty-five-hundred years ago”. The bible preaches that we are all children of God and that he loves all of us no matter what. The gospel of Luke is based around the theme of good news for all focussing on Jesus loving everyone even the social outcasts. The LGBT community is most definitely a minority and can obviously be seen as outcasts in society today. The Catholic Church teaches that we must ‘love thy neighbour as thyself’ and defines the term neighbour as everyone we come across even the outcasts and sinners but isn’t it ironic that an institution promoting love for all continues to discriminate against homosexuals – the social outcasts of today. I thought that Macklemore got his argument across in a sophisticated, intelligent way. Although I have been brought up Catholic I do disagree with the way they ignore gay rights. I think the church needs to move forward as society has changed completely since 2000 years ago and progression is not something to be afraid of. We need to come out of the dark ages and start to actually practise what we preach.

  • Josh

    You really think Eminem would do a heterosexual version of this song? Fingers crossed!

  • Erin

    Why can’t people just stop preaching hate. Who cares who gets married to whom? You can not help who you fall in love with and no one should be able to judge you because you love differently from the next person. The bible is a book written by men who were not alive at the time of Christ and are made up stories, that were not meant for people to use against one another. Open up your eyes educated heterosexual couples are not having children as often as they did in the past, so does that make them bad Catholics for not procreating to create new Christians? And what about women and men who can not have children because of medical reasons are they bad Catholics? But there are gay couples out there that want children and make amazing parents. People state that children should have both a mother and father, but what about all those children being raised by a single parent ate they going to grow up and be gay if they were raised by just 1 parent, because that is the argument that is being said if a male child is raised by 2 gay men, that child might grow up to be gay but wouldn’t that also go into effect if a male child is raised by his father? Besides when you really think about it, it takes a man and a woman to produce a gay child so maybe straight people should stop having kids so we wont have gay people in this world. Is it mind blowing to think straight parents create gay offspring????

    • JD

      Erin, it’s not “hate” to stand up for true marriage. It is however, profoundly ignorant to not see the connection between sex, marriage, and procreation.

      “You can not help who you fall in love with and no one should be able to judge you because you love differently from the next person.” I wonder if Erin would defend pedophiles who use the exact same argument?

      This is the problem with trying to discuss marriage. Those in support of “gay” marriage seem incapable of carrying on a rational adult conversation (as evidenced for the nth time by Erin’s nonsensical rant above). All they seem capable of is ad hominem and ad ecclesiam attacks devoid of any logic.

    • http://ramzpaul.com Matt B rickey

      What if a man falls in love with a child or his sister? Is it hate to say that it is wrong? Since when did truth equal hate?

  • Patricia

    I’ll add that this is not just a tradition, it’s a biological fact that in order to keep the world going round, we need families and only a man and a woman can create a baby. And child has the right to a mom and a dad.

    The word “conservative” can also mean many things some of which are not always consistent. But Catholic teaching is always consistent. Gods laws are always consistent. Patricia

    • Caitlyn

      People who are sterile and cannot have children can marry so that makes your side of the argument invalid as well.

      • http://ramzpaul.com Matt B rickey

        Being sterile is completely different than “loving” another man. Most gay men don’t actually love each other like a man and a woman do it is nothing more then a sexual perversion. I know because I have talked to a lot of gay men when I worked for a drug and alcohol rehabilitation center and most had to take drugs or get drunk just to go through with the act of anal sex. They would be completely guilt ridden after they sobered up. Trust me when I tell you most gay men are ashamed of their perversion and the ones who are not are usually people that love attention no matter how they get it. This was told to me by gay men who were in rehab trying to stop using drugs and having intercourse with men because it usually went hand in hand.



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