This time, he’s raising the excellent question of why we never question the integrity of the women involved in high-profile sex scandals with men like Rep. Weiner. I’ve been wondering the same:
Yes, the men in these scandals all made stupid mistakes and deserve what they got.
But their girlfriends — cyber or real — are not all innocent victims. Particularly the ones now coming out of hiding, seeking cameras in the wake of their playmate’s public demise.
As the saying goes, it takes two. When Governor Spitzer was caught at his call girl antics, the expensive prostitute Ashley Dupre became a minor celebrity. She now writes a regular column for the NY Post. Soon after the scandal, she “graced” the cover of Playboy. Apparently laws against prostitution in NY don’t apply to either party if the john is the state governor.
The women involved with Tiger Woods all knew that he was married and that he had children. They all chose to have a sexual relationship with him. However, it’s Woods who was demonized, while several of the women pursued a short run at b-level celebrity status, complete with a nude photo shoot in Vanity Fair. Classy, very classy.
I don’t agree with the actions of men who cheat on their spouses or significant others. I understand why the public fixates on high profile sex scandals. But I don’t understand why both parties are not held accountable.
As Granderson notes, these are consensual relationships and, after the story breaks, these women choose to go public because of the celebrity incentives. They choose to not keep quiet. Mind you, they are not victims except perhaps of their own doing (or undoing).
Instead of helping these women to their two minutes of celebrity, why not treat them the same as the men when they decide to go public?
It seems that if you didn’t want people to know you were involved with a married man before TMZ came knocking at the door, revealing explicit pictures and e-mails and text messages after the fact makes you just as questionable as the Weiners and Woodses and Edwardses.
If cheating men don’t deserve a break, why are we giving their camera-chasing mistresses one?
Women can behave just as badly as men, but equality stops there. Once someone gets caught, if it’s a woman, we’re supposed to treat her differently, gently and kindly…like a girl. If it’s a high-profile man, it’s no holds barred.
So much for equality.