Why do a majority of Catholics think God is wrong about marriage?

Here’s a fun fact for the start of your work week: 53% of Americans now support redefining marriage along gender neutral lines.

While that might not be a “fun” or even newsworthy statistic, you might be surprised to learn that only ten short years ago – seems like only yesterday doesn’t it? – only 3 in 10 Americans thought that denying children the chance to obey the 4th Commandment (honor thy father and mother) was a wise thing to do.

According to the Public Religion Research Institute (PRRI), increasing numbers of Catholics are also turning their backs on God’s laws for the family.

If the PRRI report is to be believed, and it appears that it can be, as it stands today roughly 60% of white Catholics and 56% of Latino Catholics are now in favor of recognizing homosexual unions as a form of marriage.

PRRI also found that 72% of white Catholics and 66% of Latino Catholics think that homosexual couples can “be as good as parents as heterosexual couples.” Thus, 63% of white Catholics and two-thirds of Latino Catholics now think it’s acceptable for gay couples to adopt children.


These statistics will surely be used to advance the narrative that the Catholic Church needs to change her ways and that those who favor redefining marriage are on the right side of history…as if “history,” and not God, is whose side we need to worry about being on.

The truth is that no matter how malnourished and poorly formed the consciences of the Catholic laity are, God’s laws pertaining to marriage, children and the family unit are as unchangeable as the sun rising in the east. No human being can alter them, and that’s that.

What, then, should we make of this apostasy? What is driving this confusion? Who, in other words, is to blame?

Well, our schools, for one.

Think back to December of 2013. You’ll recall that in Seattle, Washington, Mark Zmuda, the vice principal of Eastside Catholic High School, was asked to resign after the diocese learned he exchanged wedding vows with his “partner” in 2012.

He complied but almost immediately thereafter the students at Eastside burst into full on dictatorship of relativism mode. As did the media, who had a field day with the story.

In an effort to have Mr. Zmuda re-instated, the students held massive sit-ins and protests where they made cute little signs with glitter and pink markers that read “Love is Love” and “Who am I to judge?” The only one missing was one that said “YOLO.”

They even wrote up a petition for Change.org that has gained over 15,000 signatures. Here is what it says:

We are uniting in order to change the Catholic Church’s opposition of gay marriage. It is time to revisit the policy and act as Jesus would have, loving and supporting every person regardless of their marital status

Right. Good luck with that.

The question I have is: Who is educating these children about Catholicism? Because they sure as heck aren’t teaching them what the Church believes.

Now look, this small kerfuffle in an undeniably progressive state doesn’t mean that all Catholic schools are to blame. But it does suggest that bishops, priests, principals and educators need to get a grip on their curriculum. If they aren’t already, these folks need to work together if they aren’t already so that the next generation of Catholics turns out to be, well, Catholic!


Oh you know, Jesus at the Wedding at Cana, clearly not letting it be known that he supported “traditional” marriage

Another possible reason more and more Catholics are fine with homosexual unions is the lukewarm leadership in the church.

Before you go and quote me out of context, allow me to explain.

There are a large, large number of brave, courageous priests as well as bishops in the United States when it comes to the marriage issue. And we at CatholicVote have been instrumental in supporting them and letting you know about their condemnations of same-sex unions. We will continue to do so.

Still, there needs to be a more robust course of action taken by the clergy when it comes to politicians who support laws that lead to the destruction of the family unit.

Just like how Vladimir Putin is unafraid of Barack Obama, Catholics in elected office seemingly have no fear of the Catholic hierarchy. Why? Because there has been very little, if any, reprimanding taking place for voting against the moral teachings of the Catholic Church.

When the laity sees Catholic politicians who support pro-choice legislation or gay marriage bills get away with it without being punished, they are emboldened to defy the Church’s teachings elsewhere. Eventually, they convince themselves that they are acting in alignment with Catholic teaching even when, in actuality, they are not, and that no one, not even the clergy, has the right to tell them they are wrong.

Finally, it must be said that the culture, the media, and television bears a large burden of the blame as well. When one consumes thousands of hours of what passes for comedy, music and entertainment, one is slowly infected with the noxious beliefs these industries promote. I, as well as other CV writers, have written about this in countless other posts. There’s no need to beat a dead horse. Suffice it to say that the culture we live in is vehemently anti-Catholic. The more you breathe in its poisonous fumes, the more it pollutes your way of thinking.

In summary, what this PRRI poll tells us is that Catholics need to not only focus on keeping out those thieves who are trying to break into our house, but that our primary obligation must be to kick out those thieves already on the inside. That might seem like an insurmountable hill to climb, especially given these dreadful statistics, but God didn’t instruct us to fight only if victory seemed feasible. He simply demanded that we fight. The rest is up to Him.


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  • Mark H

    The debate isn’t whether the Catholic Church should recognize gay marriages. It’s whether the state should.

    A distinction needs to be made between marriage as a civil institution and marriage as a sacrament.

    What I mean is, the Catholic Church defines the sacraments, including marriage, according to its own doctrine. It sets the rules, it calls the shots. And, in America, we are fortunate to have this religious freedom.

    On the other hand, marriage is also a civil institution. Those who enter this contract are “married” as far as the state federal laws are concerned, but haven’t necessarily participated in the Sacrament of Matrimony as far as the Catholic Church is concerned. This is only if they are married in the Church.

    So, as it stands, there are millions of people who are married in a civil sense but not as far as the Catholic Church is concerned.

    These marriages may be blessed by other faiths, or not at all – but this shouldn’t matter as far as Catholic marriages go. These civil marriages don’t diminish the significance of the *sacrament* for those in the Church.

    My point is, the civil part of it is a contract two people enter into under the state. It has legal significance – property rights, tax considerations, healthcare coverage, pension benefits, etc.)

    These are not insignificant things – if they weren’t, then there wouldn’t be a need for Catholics to have their marriages recognized by the state. The sacrament would be enough.

    So, as far as marriages between people of the same sex go, I don’t see why they shouldn’t be recognized by *the state* any less than marriages between people of the Muslim faith, marriages between people of no faith, etc.

    The Church doesn’t recognize these non-Catholic marriages as being the Sacrament of Matrimony. It doesn’t have to. It’s never been made to. In the same way, it wouldn’t have to recognize marriages between people of the same sex. Remember: This is America.

    So whenever I hear someone argue that “Church Doctrine” is why we should bar two consenting adults – by law, on a state or federal level – from agreeing to a civil contract… I like to remind them of this great idea of keeping church and state separate. Freedom for others to conduct their affairs in ther own way, provided it doesn’t interfere with your right to practice your faith in peace.

    • Eric Johnson

      Beautiful summary and right on the money. Thanks Mark.

    • jimbob

      Render to God what is God’s and to Caesar what is his. Civil marriage belongs to Caesar’s realm. Most Catholics recognize this. Very few Catholics wish to see birth control instruments banned as society as a whole should have the choice to use them. I don’t wish to see the sale of meat banned today even though I will abstain from meat.

    • Albert

      Mark – So should you keep your morals only when going to church and keep them at home when going to vote?

    • Shelby

      My husband and I were both Baptized as children in a protestant church, but when we entered the Catholic Church, we were both told that our Baptisms were valid. As such, we could not be re-baptized nor was there any need for it. We were married in a protestant church. When we entered the Church, we were told by 3 different Priests from 3 different parishes that our marriage was assumed valid– (there were no other marriages before we married) so there was no need to marry or have a ceremony in the Catholic Church. Our marriage was already Sacramental. Your analysis of marriage and civil unions does not take into consideration that those outside the Church sometimes ENTER the Church. In that respect, you bet that civil unions matter and impact the Church. What happens when those who entered into civil unions suddenly find themselves desiring to enter the Church– and what happens to those who helped spread the false premise that civil unions are of no consequence to the Church? Always remember that even those of us who once hated the Catholic Faith are being called home– in fact, God is indeed calling everyone home. If you approve and promote civil unions outside the Church, what are you going to do with them once they enter? In other words, it DOES matter. As to the validity of my own Sacramental marriage, I cite Father Z. http://wdtprs.com/blog/2014/02/quaeritur-converting-to-catholicism-do-we-need-convalidation-of-marriage/

  • John

    Caroline, surely you jest. Take a look at the first chapter of Romans. Then note what Christ says about the law in Matthew 5. Further, go to Corinthians 6:9, 1Timothy 1:10 and Jude 7. The law in the OT, Leviticus 18:22, 29; 20:13. If you read the story of creation, you will get a clear picture of God’s order, and in there you will find at the end of Genesis 2 how God ordained man and woman to live. And finally, read Genesis 18 and 19. If you google homosexuality and the Catechism of the Catholic church, you will find much. Good luck.

  • Caroline

    This is a serious comment by a faithful catholic not looking to inflame anything — I really, sincerely do not understand why this is against church doctrine. Where is it that this comes from God? It’s a sincere question and I’ve been trying to understand the catholic churches stance for a while.

    • Albert

      Caroline – Your “long time” seeking answers to your questions would be cut down to a few minutes if you google “Bible marriage verses”. Rest would be in contemplation of those.

  • Nick R.

    I’m not sure if this has been covered in previous comments or not, but “apostasy” might not be the correct word to use in the sentence:
    “What, then, should we make of this apostasy? What is driving this confusion? Who, in other words, is to blame?”
    “Apostasy” refers to a formal rejection of the faith rather than “heresy” which is the rejection of a doctrine.

  • Dorianne

    WHAT? Catholics think that gay marriage is “all right”? :O This is so wrong, it’s going against God’s plan and law. Some people have a misconception about marriage. I think we need to educate more to our family about the TRUE MEANING of marriage. This is so sad for me. Like Greg Aitchison said: “It’s a cross I wish I didn’t have to carry, but carry it I must and carry it I will.”

    • Eric Johnson

      You seem to be confusing nature with God.

      • Slats

        ? God created nature.

        • Eric Johnson

          God created nature but God is not nature. Man created the wheel but man is not the wheel.

      • Antonio A. Badilla

        To me the results of the poll simply tell me that the namby pamby type of religion we got in our Catholic schools for years, is now coming back to bite us you know where. How long have we had the “Catechisms of the Catholic Church?” Certainly more than ten years and the average Catholic is as ignorant of church teaching as if the Catechism and the entire moral teaching of the Church for the last 2000 years did not matter.

  • Eric Johnson

    A majority of Catholics don’t believe God is wrong. They believe the Catholic Church is wrong. God and the Catholic Church are not one and the same.

    • Albert

      And where did you exactly read that Catholics say the Church is the same as God??

      The majority catholics you talk about perhaps spent majority of their lives not understanding their faith. Else there would be no confusion.



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