Pro golfer Phil Mickelson puts fatherhood first, golf second


Here’s a positive story to kick start your Father’s Day weekend.

Amidst all the controversies that have gone on in the sports world over the past two decades, there’s been one pro golfer whose constant play, amiable personality and ability to steer clear of kicking up too much dust has made him one of the most respected athletes in the country.

That golfer is Phil Mickelson

Known in the golf world as “Lefty,” Mickelson has won 41 PGA Tour events over his career, a number that places him 9th all time on the PGA Tour win list.

He’s also a great family man.

Eric Adelson of Yahoo Sports has more:

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Phil Mickelson showed up to the U.S. Open on Thursday. He didn’t do much before the rains came at Merion Golf Club to suspend play, but he showed up for work, with 90 minutes to spare, at 5:37 a.m, and went on to fire a 3-under 67…

He cut it so close because he wanted to show up earlier this week in San Diego, for his oldest daughter’s eighth-grade graduation. Amanda Mickelson is done with junior high now, going on to high school. Yeah, it’s only an eighth-grade graduation, and Mickelson lost valuable practice time (not to mention sleep) while his competitors got familiar with a complex course. Amanda said she understood if Dad wanted to stay in Philadelphia [where the U.S. Open is being played]. But Dad said, “I want to be there.” So he flew overnight, coast-to-coast, from his home in San Diego to his place of work, which this week is Philadelphia.

He slept two hours on the plane, one before tee time and one more during the weather delay, which halted play for some three hours.

“I feel great,” he said after his round.

Adelson notes that this isn’t the first time Phil put fatherhood first and golf second:

Mickelson wanted to be there 14 years ago, when he carried a pager around at Pinehurst, vowing he would walk off the course and out of the final round of the U.S. Open if his wife, Amy, went into labor. Mickelson finished the tournament, losing in a heartbreaker to Payne Stewart, who walked right over to him on the 18th green, held Mickelson’s face in his hands, and told him there was something far more important about to happen: fatherhood.

Amanda Mickelson was born the next day.

Stewart died in a plane accident four months later. He was 42.

Amanda’s dad is now 42.

Adelson goes on to point out the importance of parenthood and, more specifically, what Father’s Day means to the world of golf:

Parents make the extra effort for their children every single day because they love their babies, but also because they never know what fate might bring. To be a parent is the ultimate celebration of life, but it also comes with the sober and unspoken preparation for the day when you’re not there anymore to care for them. We pray that day comes much later on, but we know that’s not up to us.

Father’s Day, always tied to the U.S. Open and the game of golf, can be equal parts jubilant and sad. We are elated to give our kids a hug on Father’s Day, and we are crushed when we can’t get a hug from a father who is no longer with us. How many sons remember watching the final round of the U.S. Open with our fathers, and how many of us still watch a great putt or sand save and think, Dad would have loved this?

Adelson then speaks about Mickelson’s image as a golfer and his ability to relate to fans, especially dads:

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Mickelson appeals to a lot of dads, with his blend of daring and goofy, cool and seemingly approachable. He has his serious moments and his lighter ones, often within the same few minutes on the same hole. He’s been touched by triumph and tragedy, famously leaping two inches off the ground when he won the Masters for the first time, and then sharing a long and emotional embrace with Amy after winning at Augusta in 2010, a year after she was diagnosed with cancer.

He’s been brave and vulnerable, the way a lot of good dads are. He’s worked hard, succeeding and failing at work, putting extra time in when he’d rather be home. Yes, it must be nice for a guy with a plane to jet from one coast to the other to play for millions in front of millions. This isn’t like driving through snow to drop your daughter off at swim practice at 4 a.m. before going to a construction site. Phil Mickelson is not everyman. But dads can relate. Even though Phil is a celebrity who’s as unknowable as Tiger Woods or Rory McIlroy, with him we always seem to relate.

Mickelson looked tired Thursday morning as he walked through the early part of his round. It’s the look so many dads know: the weariness of getting up early, or staying up late, making sure the kids get to school or making sure they get home. It may have cost Mickelson a stroke or two, which can be all the difference in this tournament. No matter. Payne Stewart was right: showing up to see your child is the greatest thing a man can ever feel.

Great column, Mr. Adelson. And great job of setting an example, Phil. We’ll be rooting for you this weekend.

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Stephen Kokx is a freelance writer and adjunct professor of political science living in Grand Rapids, Michigan. He has previously worked for the Archdiocese of Chicago's Office for Peace and Justice. His writing on religion, politics and Catholic social teaching has appeared in a number of outlets, including Crisis Magazine, The American Thinker and his hometown paper The Grand Rapids Press. He is a member of the Fellowship of Catholic Scholars and the Society of Catholic Social Scientists, and is a graduate of Aquinas College and Loyola University Chicago. Follow Stephen on twitter @StephenKokx

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